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Old 24-09-18, 08:21 AM   #1
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Default Not sure anymore....

Hi,
I'm new to this forum and thought I'll give it a go.

My current girlfriend was officially diagnosed with HD earlier this year. Looking back she was affected by it since I've known her but we didn't realise it then.

Since the diagnosis the mood changes have become even worse, it just takes a tiny thing and she gets really angry. She hit me several times and tore apart my cloths in rage. She seems to be really hating me and keeps telling me what a cold and heartless person I am because I have a full time job and she hasn't worked for over 2 years and has been sitting at home alone.

We tried moving abroad for a little but that is even worse as we don't have any support network. I am really considering if I should just send her home and leave her there with family and just disappear, I feel emotionally exhausted and I want her to have a good life. Not sure if I can give that to her and felling like a massive failure and traitor. Is this really extremely selfish of me? I don't know anymore, couples would have split up for less a long time ago.
We don't have any kids and we are not married, so I really considering it might be the best for her as I seem to be bringing out the worst in her. I feel like I'm the reason she get's so angry and upset. She seems to be fine once other people are around.

Sorry, really at my wits end and having a moral dilemma...
The relationship hasn't been great for a long time.
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Old 30-09-18, 02:02 PM   #2
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Default Re: Not sure anymore....

its a terrible thing to live with, hubby is the same he was diagnosed 3 years ago. everything is my fault whatever goes wrong or isnt liked. refused his meds, smashes things. i wish things could be different, its hard to walk away but the person you fell in love with isnt coming back. its sad but thats it and it gets worse, i would say leave her as best you can unless you can cope with what feels like a loveless relationship for the future. harsh, yes it is but im living it with 2 kids and wish i could run. sending a hug xx
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