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Old 01-08-18, 01:36 PM   #1
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Default How to deal with repetitive questioning, and not wanting to be left

Can anyone offer any tips on how to deal with these things:
1. being asked the same thing over and over. I'm feeling like I'm going mad having to answer the same thing many times in a day. I've started writing things down once I've been asked several times, such as ' Every night before she goes to bed, Monica will pull your curtains and let the dog out' - but it doesn't stop my husband asking.

2. not wanting to be left. My husband is ok if I go out in the daytime but if I want to pop out in the evening even for just an hour and a half (say, to slimming club), he starts getting really anxious - he starts shaking and cannot eat etc. I've asked him why it's different in the evening than in the day but he can't explain, he just says he feels stressed. I've said I'd have my mobile phone with me if he needed me but he is still anxious. There is nobody I can ask to sit with him as we have no family nearby and he has no friends. I said I might look into paying someone to sit with him but he isn't happy about that either. Last week I had to take him to a pub and leave him there for an hour while I went to slimming club, and he was happy with that - which is odd since he was with strangers and yet was happier than being at home alone. Does anyone else have this problem and how do you cope with it?

I'm really struggling at the moment as he is so focused on me, I can't do anything hardly without being asked what I'm doing, why, how long will I be. I sat in my own room to watch my favourite tv programme on Sunday as I wanted to be undisturbed for an hour, and he started asking me how long would I be there and would I come down straight after it etc. I'm finding it really hard to be sympathetic because I feel suffocated, as I'm used to my independence. And then I feel guilty as I know he can't help it. Feel quite worn out and almost at the end of my tether.
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Old 01-08-18, 07:39 PM   #2
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Default Re: How to deal with repetitive questioning, and not wanting to be left

I totally hear your point but I'm also understanding your partner's too it's horrible being anxious I know all about the constant same questions etc that is an obvious sign of hd and yes it can be really annoying and frustrating. I have a father who is but he dosent know it because I tested positive for the gene last year but I have not told him as he has 14 grandchildren I hope you are getting suppport from the hd foundation or your local hospice and I wish you all the bestxx
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